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  1. Filip

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    Okay, here goes:

    So far I have come out to several people already. All responded quite well (and with somewhat less surprise than I had expected :confused:). In fact, I now have fallen into the habit of informing each of my friends as soon as I meet them again.

    However, one big task yet remains: coning out to my mother. I'm not really afraid that she will react badly, but I am afraid that she will be hurt. Either because of my lying to her for well over 10 years, or for all her hope for me being smashed. I just want her to be happy and carefree butI have no choice but to smash this ideal myself.
    This is also why I keep putting off coming out to her, always retreating just before I'm about to say something. Even though I know this is something I really need to do.

    But no longer! I have put a date on this. It will be this wednesday, april 15th. And to bar all possibility of me retreating (and also because of Martin reminding me to :icon_wink), I posted this thread. If I don't come back with a story by thursday, you are all free to hound me about it until I do!

    So, hopefully, I will return in a few days with a report! There's no way back now!
     
    #1 Filip, Apr 13, 2009
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    Dont worry about disappointing her, because EVERY parent is GOING to be somewhat disappointed. They want you to be straight. Why? Well, for one your life would be easier. But also, then you have a better chance to pump her out some babies!

    Its basically like taking a band-aid off coming out to your parents. Its going to hurt, so you might delay doing it, but no matter how long you wait the band-aid is going to stay there. The longer you take however, the nastier the mark on your skin after the fact. Its best to rip it off fast and soon because the faster you do the sooner everything can start to heal.
     
    #2 Greggers, Apr 13, 2009
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    Good luckski hun! You'll do fantabulous. :grin:

    No pressure... :wink: Nawt :evil: :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
    #3 Martin, Apr 13, 2009
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    id be more scared of martin breathing down my back then my mom being disappointed.

    but seriously i am sure it will be fine. i remember how nervous i was before telling my parents.

    i hope it goes well
     
    #4 Dazed, Apr 13, 2009
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    Good luck, buddeh :thumbsup: I know you'll do all of us here at EC proud :grin:
     
    #5 pirateninja, Apr 13, 2009
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    You can do it Filip! Good luck. (*hug*)
     
    #6 beckyg, Apr 13, 2009
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    Good Luck Filip.Just know we have your back.
     
    #7 Starshine16, Apr 13, 2009
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    Filip, you are less than an hour away by train, so I can hound you in person if you don't accomplish this goal :wink:
    But that won't be needed, because you can do this!
    All of us at EC are here for you (&&&)
     
    #8 olides84, Apr 13, 2009
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    Setting a date was a good thing to do for me... i think i would have gone on forever watiting to say something to my mum if i didn't say anything by that date..


    Ooo i just realized that its my 1 weekaversery... good luck Filip you can do it!
     
    #9 VanceA, Apr 13, 2009
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    good Luck Filip, you can do it.
     
    #10 moonlight, Apr 13, 2009
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    Good luck!!
     
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    I,too,wish you the best. All of us who've been there/done that,know just how hard this can be. Just know that we're all here,cheering you on. Please,let us know how it went,we care.
     
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    Good luck :slight_smile:
     
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    u have our support! and im sure ittl go great!
     
    #14 Alex19, Apr 13, 2009
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    Good luck Filip (*hug*)(*hug*)(*hug*)(*hug*)(*hug*)(*hug*)(*hug*)(*hug*)(*hug*)
     
    #15 Eleanor Rigby, Apr 14, 2009
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    Good luck Filip! U can do it!
     
    #16 riddlerno1, Apr 14, 2009
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    Good luck man :slight_smile:
     
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    YOU are not responsible for your mother's happiness! She is.

    YOU are only responsible for your own happiness. And living an honest and authentic life is the best path for you - and that includes being honest once and for all with your mom.

    So good luck. I'm sure it will be just fine!
     
    #18 Jim1454, Apr 14, 2009
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    Whoa, so many replies already. Now I really feel like I can't go back. Tomorrow is the day!
    In any case, everything is still on schedule. My brother is going to his girlfriend's place like he promised, and we aren't likely to have unexpected visitors tomorrow. So if circumstances won't be ideal tomorrow, they aren't likely to get better.

    And okay, basically I'm just typing this as filler to get to this: Your support means the world to me, and I wouldn't be able to do this without you all! (&&&)
     
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    It's the final countdown :music:

    You'll be fineeeee. :grin:
     
    #20 Martin, Apr 14, 2009
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