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Small Victories

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by Kasey, Dec 11, 2014.

  1. Lacybi

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    Good! She said she had kind of picked up on it. We've known each other since we were four or five and we see each other nearly every day so yeah.

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    I got my hair cut really short! (I put up a picture if anyone was wondering what it looked like)
     
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    So I was walking down the street where a man was trying to cross. Cars weren't stopping. When I started to walk near the cross walk someone did stop.

    "I think they only stopped for you honey".

    I had on like 4 inch heels yesterday and I had no stares or any thing out of the ordinary. Was a very affirming day.
     
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    Got mah haircut! I can actually kind of pass now. I need to practice speaking in a lower octave, haha.
     
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    My sister called me Patrick, unprompted. First time anyone has ever called me that besides my therapist.
     
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    Awesome! Sounds like she's really coming around.

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    I started keeping weights on my desk and I'll do bicep curls while I work. Biceps are starting to come in. Arms already got a little more definition even when I don't deliberately flex my arms. :slight_smile:
     
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    Ahh, small victories.. lets see.. do I have any.. at all.. comon..um... err... oh yes, I went to my school dance, fully barbied up with my boyfriend and no one seemed to recognize me. In fact some people where like "I thought you where gay" to my boyfriend and he was like chuckling up a storm every time.
     
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    That's so amazing to hear. Congrats! At your own school too. Hope you had a good time.
     
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    Looking back on it.. that could have gone really bad.I still had that "Bad-boy" look to me, luckily I have a natural slender look. I'm glad things turned out for the best.
     
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    Me too for sure and congrats :slight_smile: Glad your boyfriend seems supportive too.

    I find, really, that the key to 'passing' when you're pre-everything is honestly confidence. And as a trans guy who only really just started T last month, it's really just something that serves you well no matter how long you've been transitioning or living as yourself.

    You act like you belong in the clothes you're wearing, the bathroom, on the street, and so on and you'll be good to go :slight_smile:
     
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    Yes. Confidence. Act like you're faking it and people will know. Walk into a place and own it.
     
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    I told my friend today about being androgynous, she didn't act like it was weird at all, she also told me that I could talk to her anyone about it.

    One down, seven billion to go.
     
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    A guy who I'm friends with online (not as shady as it sounds, it's a long story), told me he actually thought I was a guy for quite some time, even after he saw my face and everything. Unfortunately he "realised I was a girl" afterwards, and I'm not nearly ready to be out, so I had to go with it.
     
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    Finally came up with a name for myself, and came to terms with who I am. Came out to a bunch of my friends and they're all totally cool with it! Also came out to my family and they're kinda confused and freaked out but I mean they didn't disown me or anything.
     
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    Danced on a stripper pole in Machine lgbt dance club in Boston last night and met other trans people there. Was a fucking blast. And I looked fab.
     
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    So I'm at my cousins party for going into highschool and one of her friend's mom says to my mom (who I was standing next to) "so is this your son?" and I was so happy. Of course my mom and aunt ruined it a bit with "she wants to be a boy right now" comments, but still. Super excited/happy about that.
     
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    Finally tomorrow I'll be able to come out to a certain someone, and hopefully with that will come the opportunity to buy something that will greatly reduce my gender dysphoria. Not completely, but still.

    I"M SIMULTANEOUSLY EXCITED YET SCARED
     
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    I had a barbecue with some friends and we camped and during the preparations and actual thing they called me Seth most of the time. A few slip ups but that's to be expected and I don't really mind.
     
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    Let us know how it goes! :icon_bigg
     
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    Good luck! Hope it goes well!

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    Meanwhile; my small victory:

    (Not so much a victory as it is just a positive thing. It's just the Momentum extension for Chrome and it's quite nice. The only downside is that it shows every time you open a new tab, so I have to be careful not to automatically command-T when my parents can see my screen. The text is huge.)
     

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    Passed perfectly to a girl in the lift today. When she asked my name and I told her she didn't even blink.