1. This site uses cookies. By continuing to use this site, you are agreeing to our use of cookies. Learn More.

Public hand holding

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Calf, May 1, 2016.

?

Would you hold hands in public with a person of the same gender?

  1. Yes [male]

    48 vote(s)
    44.9%
  2. yes [female]

    45 vote(s)
    42.1%
  3. No [male]

    12 vote(s)
    11.2%
  4. No [female]

    2 vote(s)
    1.9%
  1. BrookeVL

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Apr 30, 2016
    Messages:
    2,157
    Likes Received:
    293
    Location:
    Pennsylvania
    Gender:
    Female (trans*)
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Lesbian
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    Why the hell not, I say. If someone has a problem, that's their issue.
     
  2. RyFastForward

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Mar 1, 2016
    Messages:
    43
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Terra Australis
    Gender:
    Male
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Imwould, with anyone I was friendly with. I am a very comforting person, great for Port Arthur Ghost Tours. The irony is, nothing irritates me more than PDAs so...
     
  3. ouji

    ouji Guest

    Joined:
    Jun 24, 2013
    Messages:
    368
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    USA
    Gender:
    Female
    Yeah, I would. I live in an accepting place for the most part so it wouldn't bother me a bit. I would feel comfortable doing it. And if someone by chance does have a problem with it, whatever, it's their problem. Haha.
     
  4. SillyGoose

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Apr 16, 2016
    Messages:
    501
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Manchester, UK
    Gender:
    Male
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Out Status:
    All but family
    I've never seen 2 men holding hands before.. I've seen them French kiss in the public toilets lol but it isn't something men that are friends do..

    ---------- Post added 2nd May 2016 at 10:48 AM ----------

    I put yes but only if I was out..n
     
  5. Brandiac

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Apr 24, 2014
    Messages:
    462
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Central Europe
    Gender:
    Male
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    Some people
    I don't showing affection in public in general... I guess I would do it in a secretive, behind the bushes-way if I was asked to.
     
    #25 Brandiac, May 2, 2016
    Last edited by a moderator: May 2, 2016
  6. Gentlady

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Apr 4, 2014
    Messages:
    60
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Helsinki, Finland
    Gender:
    Female
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    I already walk around with my friend holding hands, why would it be any different with an actual girlfriend? I'm a very PDA kinda person :grin:
     
  7. OutofZCloset

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Mar 30, 2016
    Messages:
    341
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    redlands
    Gender:
    Female
    Sexual Orientation:
    Lesbian
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    We do whenever we are out on a date. We were just at Downtown Disney last night and walked around holding hands. My wife is always a little nervous about it but she still does it. Sometimes I even hold her arm as we're just shopping in Walmart. I kind of do it to get the straight people more comfortable seeing it and to give more gay people the courage to do the same. The more of us doing it the less awkward we'll all feel. Power in numbers.
     
    #27 OutofZCloset, May 2, 2016
    Last edited: May 2, 2016
  8. Calf

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Feb 24, 2016
    Messages:
    472
    Likes Received:
    22
    Location:
    UK, Leeds
    Gender:
    Male
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
  9. Embi

    Embi Guest

    Sure I would. As long as I'm not in a violently homophobic environment or a country where it's against the law, I don't care what people say.
     
  10. R M

    R M
    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Dec 30, 2015
    Messages:
    357
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Eindhoven, The Netherlands
    Gender:
    Male
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    although the place where I live is very accepting, I wouldnt want to do it because Im a very shy person and youre obviously gonna get looked at and maybe get negative comments because there will always be homophobes.
     
  11. timo

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Mar 12, 2012
    Messages:
    2,904
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    berlin
    In general, yes I would.

    In some neighbourhoods I would think twice about it though. I don't care if anyone has a problem with me holding another guy's hand, but I wouldn't want to put us in any danger if it doesn't feel safe.
     
  12. Conquistar

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Apr 27, 2016
    Messages:
    3
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Illinois
    Gender:
    Male
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Questioning
    Out Status:
    A few people
    This states are always more right wing. There definition of left-wing is still right wing in the rest of the world.
     
  13. OGS

    OGS
    Full Member

    Joined:
    Feb 1, 2014
    Messages:
    2,716
    Likes Received:
    728
    Location:
    Chicago, IL
    Gender:
    Male
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    My husband and I do all the time, never had an issue and don't really think about it much.
     
  14. bubbles123

    bubbles123 Guest

    Joined:
    Apr 8, 2015
    Messages:
    934
    Likes Received:
    1
    Location:
    New England, US
    I would, personally. I have.

    I think everyone should be able to feel comfortable doing that if they want to, but in today's society that's not always an option. It depends on the individual, how comfortable they feel, and also how safe it would be in a given environment.

    I think it's important, even if you regularly do that, to think about what kind of environment you're in first, just to stay safe (and also if you're not out to everyone and don't want to give yourself away)
     
    #34 bubbles123, May 2, 2016
    Last edited: May 2, 2016
  15. Gunsmoke

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Apr 17, 2016
    Messages:
    609
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Manchester, United Kingdom
    Gender:
    Female
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    A few people
    I'm not big on PDA (seriously. I know two couples who make out and snuggle in front of everyone, like, this might not be school but it's still a place of learning and it's ATTACHED to a school), but if it was just hand-holding I'd be cool with it. For about five minutes. That said, it's easier for girls to hold hands in public than it is for boys, even in this country where PDA are seen as unusual, in comparison to other countries at least.
     
    #35 Gunsmoke, May 3, 2016
    Last edited: May 3, 2016
  16. faultyink

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Mar 11, 2016
    Messages:
    296
    Likes Received:
    7
    Location:
    cabeswater
    Gender:
    Female
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Lesbian
    Out Status:
    Some people
    I definitely would, especially if we're together. I think it's cute when I see couples holding hands!
     
  17. Naxams

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Jan 1, 2016
    Messages:
    0
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Tulsa
    Gender:
    Male
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    I personally think it's cute
     
  18. justtired

    justtired Guest

    Joined:
    Apr 20, 2016
    Messages:
    32
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    none of your businezz
    Gender:
    Female
    No, I want to snog in public! Especially at the airport when you know you won't see them for months!
     
  19. ThatBorussenGuy

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Aug 28, 2015
    Messages:
    2,054
    Likes Received:
    19
    Location:
    Between the posts
    Gender:
    Male (trans*)
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Other
    Out Status:
    A few people
    No; even if I were straight, if I was in a relationship, I still wouldn't be comfortable showing any kind of affection like that in public. Just not my thing.

    Other people can do it and it doesn't bug me. Just not something I would do.
     
    #39 ThatBorussenGuy, May 3, 2016
    Last edited: May 3, 2016
  20. Brytaleith

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    May 26, 2016
    Messages:
    210
    Likes Received:
    1
    Location:
    Shi'Kahr
    I hold hands with my friend, who is female, in public all the time, because we're friends, and I can trust her not to experience romantic/sexual attraction towards me.

    I typically don't hold hands beyond that, not because of a fear of ridicule, but because I detest touching people who aren't my super closest friends.