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question for women who want to be men

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by AfraidandAlone, Mar 29, 2015.

  1. Foxfeather

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    It's tough when people just look at me and they have this look in their face where they're confused. I'd like to think of myself as a fairly attractive person, but it kind of hurts when I'm bi and people--both men and women--look at me and they seem...almost upset with themselves for being attracted to me and they're not quite sure what to make of me. I'm cute. I know I am. But..... they can't get over my actual gender (if they're women) or the fact that I sometimes wear beanies or dress masculine-feminine or feminine-masculine (men). They like me, I know they do, but they don't want to tell me how they really feel.
     
  2. AfraidandAlone

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    i dont mind my height so much (6ft) but more my build. i really wish i could be more slender i have very broad shoulders and chubby looking i could lose some weight (i like candy and junk food wayyyy to much for that hehehe) but i will never be thin unless i actually starve my self. but none of the women in my family are slender either so cant really do much about genetics hahaha
     
  3. paris

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    I hate to be called sweetie, honey, lovely - things like that. It's just ugh. :dry:
     
  4. An Gentleman

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    The title kind of confused me, but that's okay; you didn't mean to. Anyways, I'd say that the worst part for me right now (besides gender dysphoria) is that small chance that I might not ever be seen as a normal guy. Now, I'm not dissing androgyny or anything, but that's not who I am, either.
     
  5. AfraidandAlone

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    is there any way a mod or admin can change the thread title? i dont like the thought that it is making people uncomfortable.
     
  6. Queero

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    I don't know. Maybe you could ask about that.

    Don't feel too bad, I'm pretty sure everyone knows you didn't mean to make anyone uncomfortable. You seem pretty nice. :slight_smile:
     
  7. MojoDojo

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    Not that I'm an FTM...

    I hate that people look at me and see a girl. No matter what. I have an extremely female face and body, and a large chest/small stomach combo that makes it hard to bind. I don't like looking in the mirror and seeing someone who could never pass as androgynous.

    Also, seeing guys wearing shirts and they just look so..... masculine. And I just look like a girl wearing a shirt that's two sizes too big.