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attraction what is the feeling to you

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Justinian20, Nov 23, 2014.

  1. Justinian20

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    To me I'm pretty sure that attraction starts emotional(wanting to be close to someone and talk to them), and it soon becomes sexual if you are in a relationship. The only attraction stage I've been in is emotional, and that was in high school with a couple of guys. Personally I am wondering is my attraction really attraction in terms of sexuality. For some more detail read my coming out story friendships and coming out in the coming out stories board.
     
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    I shouldn't even be asking this question because I already know the answer. I do feel attraction towards men and it's not something else, I've always felt instantly more sexual with men. I just am trying to really find out opinions from everyone else. It's like what do you think of me. Every day it becomes even more clear in comparison to the last day. I am definitely gay I mean any straight person who knows what I've done would simply answer you're a gay man absolutely. It's always been like that, there is no point even asking these questions because there's only one answer. Yes, it is attraction. Yes you are gay, yes everything does suggest you are gay. I don't think there is a no answer in sight. Well it's official I am a completely gay man cause there ain't nothing straight bout me except for the fact I like sport, but that is it.
     
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    Well read your two posts and i'll answer anyway.

    My attraction is like apple and oranges. With women i want to take care of them, hold them, kiss them, and just be their everything. With men i just want someone i can hang with, chill with.

    I use to get angry and jealous when a girl would choose to hang with their boyfriend over me which i think is/was odd. Because if i felt for men the way i felt for women i can understand why they would do that.

    My friends knew i was gay without telling them even people online that i never met knew. I was distant with men, didn't care for their attention. People could see all my attention was on women. I was oblivious toward men.

    I use to come home and think a lot about my female friends. I would think about how to make them laugh and things i wanted to do with them. Also my bank account started to show my sexuality lol. I would spend a lot of money on women, to give them almost everything they wanted.

    Hope this helped a little and explained well how my attraction toward someone is. I think it is hard to describe, you just put more time and effort toward someone you have a crush with, you want to be their center of attention (the jewel in their eye.)
     
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    You know what I can see your point and understand how you feel attracted to someone, it's like impressing them with what you can do. I break attraction into stages, minor attraction(you feel like you wanna get close to the person and in this stage, you watch them from afar and maybe copy movements), the next stage is admitting attraction and the chase stage(you reach out to said attraction, can lead in failure(my first attraction)), the next stage is bigger and it is the Major Attraction stage.
     
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    Yeah for me if there's a girl that I like I'll want to hold her hands, cuddle, etc. It's like you said, you want tip get closer to them, then sexual attraction comes along. But with guys they're my buddies that I will chill with because of similar interests, like what seeking said.
     
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    For me it's the other way round I want to be close to guys and I just want to chill with girls
     
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    Oh well that means I am definitely feeling attraction to the same sex. I never really mentioned attraction one because I got depressed and that is something I don't want to fully remember as it wasn't the best experience.
     
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    1. Acquire target, or let target come to you.
    2. Judge target with all you've learned about micro expressions.
    3. Make a hasty opinion.
    4. Profile them based on the few seconds you had with them.
    5. Decide if they fit your criteria of "unique" - enough.
    6. Proceed to engage in contact.
    7. Let emotions run wild.
    8. Push them away.
    9. Realize they are a complete jerk who you've wasted your time on.
    10. Move on.
     
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    Whenever I"m attracted to someone I get butterflies and it feels wonderful lol
     
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    Yo word lol. And then when they knock into you or put their hands on your shoulder, it feels amazing...
     
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    i remember once i was in a make-up store looking for lipstick and a make-up specialist showed up. I asked her what foundation do you think matches my skin complexion the most. so she put some on my cheek.. and i like turned my head quickly and blushed. just like when someone is flirting with someone else and that someone else when made to laugh by that someone turns away quickly and giggles to hide the blushing.

    all this happen unconsciously, i didn't even know that i thought she was attractive.

    when i walked out the store i was like "dang it she knows i am gay" lol at the time i was still hiding my homosexuality.