Who wants to just Yell - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

hawkeye · 29th Mar 2005, 09:21 PM

For the past few months, I feel like I just want to yell out to the world that I'm Bi (Or gay, depending on how disinterested in girls I am at the time). Of course I will never do this I'm sure, I feel great that I can do this here.

I'M BI

I feel so good to accept this after my 3-4 year "battle".
Anyone else here just want to yell it out to everyone you know, but are held back?

29th Mar 2005, 11:13 PM

I used to feel like that, before I came out. In fact I kind of did it today!

I was at work, and there is this new guy there. Even newer than me, and I've only been there for a week. Well, one of the girls was like, "I hope he's gay, we need more gay guys working here."

And I put up my hand and went, "OOH, OOH, OOH, I AM!"

It was pretty funny.

Maybe you'll be able to do the same, eventually!

Micah · 30th Mar 2005, 12:08 AM

Yeah, I've been there before.... Infact just yesterday my friend was talking about some girl, telling me how much i would like her and stuff. I just wanted to turn around and tell him that I'm gay.

nisomer · 30th Mar 2005, 03:42 PM

same here. i hate lying when i talk about girls, or when ppl ask me about them. I AM GAY!!

GenericSR · 30th Mar 2005, 06:46 PM

I've been good about not lying about me being bi... but instead I just use sneaky loopholes. For instance, if someone asks if I'm gay I say no (which is true). I don't elaborate and they don't think of the possibility of me being bi so it's usually just dropped. But I'm sick and tired of this crap. I'm not going to yell out but I am going to tell my friends soon. Hopefully. I've sort of started (one person knows) but I just need to keep the ball rolling. Let's hope it's a strike and not a gutter ball, eh?

Micah · 31st Mar 2005, 12:00 AM

Yeah Generic, I used to do that when someone asked if i was gay,
I'd say "Nope" then think in my head "im not gay, im bi" but things have changed since then so now im lying..

Anyway, today my friends asked me, "what age limitations do you have on girls that you would date?" and i felt like saying "none, i'd only date guys" but i gave in and just said what everyone else was saying....ah well, theres always a next time.

Quasar · 31st Mar 2005, 08:10 AM

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Originally Posted by Dave

Anyway, today my friends asked me, "what age limitations do you have on girls that you would date?" and i felt like saying "none, i'd only date guys" but i gave in and just said what everyone else was saying....ah well, theres always a next time.

When I was 17 and still in school, I gradually found the pressure too much and for some stupid, death-wish type of reason I thought "I'm not going to bottle it this time."

One day in class we were discussing changes of attitude towards marriage, and the teacher asked for a show of hands on who expected to get married by a certain age. Well everyone put their hand up - except me. The teacher asked if I wanted to give a reason but I said no. One of the other lads yelled out "Hey Dave, it's cos guys can't marry guys, innit!" Everyone laughed - including me - and I yelled back "That's right mate!"

After class, he came up to me really embarrassed and said, "I'm sorry if I upset you, you know I was only joking." To which I replied "You might have been, but I wasn't!" and walked off with the biggest smile on my face ever, and I guess that was the beginning of my journey!

greatbeyond · 31st Mar 2005, 10:04 AM

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Originally Posted by hawkeye

Anyone else here just want to yell it out to everyone you know, but are held back?

Yes..and i used to do it, too -- just give me a sixer of beer and wait an hour.

Oh, hi there, by the way.
Greets
gb

ahunt83 · 31st Mar 2005, 12:29 PM

I've been feeling it all the time since i realised. It's like whenever you see a cute couple on TV or in a film and i start thinking god he looks hot and then one of my mates wil pipe up and say how hot the girl is! I just want to yell out what i'm feeling but that would definatly kill the mood. I suppose it is just the phase i'm going through where i really want to tell someone, just glad i found you lot on here.

nisomer · 31st Mar 2005, 06:07 PM

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Originally Posted by ahunt83

It's like whenever you see a cute couple on TV or in a film and i start thinking god he looks hot and then one of my mates wil pipe up and say how hot the girl is!

i know what ya mean man..

goratrix · 1st Apr 2005, 09:36 PM

Well, I actually make a point of saying YES every time the subject comes up. Although I give it a tone of irony, so it's quiet like saying no. However, I promised to myself that when somebody asked me if I was gay I would just tell the truth, I AM GAY!.

Paul_UK · 2nd Apr 2005, 04:44 AM

I agree that it's good to try to avoid lying about this if possible, even if it meens being vague with the truth or avoiding the issue.

goratrix · 2nd Apr 2005, 10:44 AM

I have become quiet an expert on that matter over the last couple of years. The idea is to keep every conversation gender-free, which is quiet easy in spanish. I'm not so sure about english though.

Paul_UK · 2nd Apr 2005, 02:12 PM

It's not always that easy in English as there are a limited number of gender-neutral terms that would replace "him", "her", "he" and "she" etc without sounding unnatural. I do use the word "partner" quite a lot where other guys might say "girlfriend" or "wife" or whatever.

goratrix · 2nd Apr 2005, 07:51 PM

Another thing I usually do, is speaking fairly quick, so when I MUST use a gender term I can use a male one and most of the times they miss it. The frew times someone pointed it out I joked about it.

hawkeye · 3rd Apr 2005, 12:49 PM

It's cool to see so many stories! And David! Wow, That was a funny story, I hope it didnt have too many bad repercussions.

goratrix · 3rd Apr 2005, 01:07 PM

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Originally Posted by hawkeye

It's cool to see so many stories! And David! Wow, That was a funny story, I hope it didnt have too many bad repercussions.

I'd be surprised If this guy took him seriously. I usually say things like those to my friends and they always laugh and take it as a joke.

Micah · 4th Apr 2005, 07:29 AM

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Originally Posted by goratrix

I'd be surprised If this guy took him seriously. I usually say things like those to my friends and they always laugh and take it as a joke.

Yeah i know, I say soo much gay stuff to my friends, but they just assume I'm joking. If only they knew

goratrix · 4th Apr 2005, 10:14 AM

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Originally Posted by Dave

Yeah i know, I say soo much gay stuff to my friends, but they just assume I'm joking. If only they knew

and that's when your evil laugh fills the air, and you are covered by smoke and disappear!!! mwahahahaa

Micah · 5th Apr 2005, 06:44 AM

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Originally Posted by goratrix

and that's when your evil laugh fills the air, and you are covered by smoke and disappear!!! mwahahahaa

LOL Goratrix. You amuse me

29th Mar 2005, 09:21 PM	#1
hawkeye EC Addict Regular Member Location: Wisconsin Age: 23 Posts: 278 Join Date: Mar 2005	Who wants to just Yell For the past few months, I feel like I just want to yell out to the world that I'm Bi (Or gay, depending on how disinterested in girls I am at the time). Of course I will never do this I'm sure, I feel great that I can do this here. I'M BI I feel so good to accept this after my 3-4 year "battle". Anyone else here just want to *yell* it out to everyone you know, but are held back? __________________ "I am what I am, and that is all that I am" Popeye

30th Mar 2005, 12:08 AM	#3
Micah ^_^ Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to All Location: Melbourne, Australia Age: 23 Posts: 2,532 Join Date: Feb 2005	Yeah, I've been there before.... Infact just yesterday my friend was talking about some girl, telling me how much i would like her and stuff. I just wanted to turn around and tell him that I'm gay. __________________ 　／l、（ﾟ､｡７　l、 ~ヽ　じしf_, )ノ

30th Mar 2005, 06:46 PM	#5
GenericSR Newbie Regular Member Location: New York City Age: 26 Posts: 5 Join Date: Mar 2005	I've been good about not lying about me being bi... but instead I just use sneaky loopholes. For instance, if someone asks if I'm gay I say no (which is true). I don't elaborate and they don't think of the possibility of me being bi so it's usually just dropped. But I'm sick and tired of this crap. I'm not going to yell out but I am going to tell my friends soon. Hopefully. I've sort of started (one person knows) but I just need to keep the ball rolling. Let's hope it's a strike and not a gutter ball, eh? __________________ "sangre sonando de rabia naci" -The Mars Volta

31st Mar 2005, 12:00 AM	#6
Micah ^_^ Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to All Location: Melbourne, Australia Age: 23 Posts: 2,532 Join Date: Feb 2005	Yeah Generic, I used to do that when someone asked if i was gay, I'd say "Nope" then think in my head "im not gay, im bi" but things have changed since then so now im lying.. Anyway, today my friends asked me, "what age limitations do you have on girls that you would date?" and i felt like saying "none, i'd only date guys" but i gave in and just said what everyone else was saying....ah well, theres always a next time. __________________ 　／l、（ﾟ､｡７　l、 ~ヽ　じしf_, )ノ

3rd Apr 2005, 12:49 PM	#16
hawkeye EC Addict Regular Member Location: Wisconsin Age: 23 Posts: 278 Join Date: Mar 2005	Wow It's cool to see so many stories! And David! Wow, That was a funny story, I hope it didnt have too many bad repercussions. __________________ "I am what I am, and that is all that I am" Popeye

29th Mar 2005, 11:13 PM	#2
Aaron Guest Posts: n/a Tournaments Won: 14	I used to feel like that, before I came out. In fact I kind of did it today! I was at work, and there is this new guy there. Even newer than me, and I've only been there for a week. Well, one of the girls was like, "I hope he's gay, we need more gay guys working here." And I put up my hand and went, "OOH, OOH, OOH, I AM!" It was pretty funny. Maybe you'll be able to do the same, eventually!

30th Mar 2005, 03:42 PM	#4
nisomer Da Jedi Masta Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: All but a few Location: MN Age: 23 Posts: 581 Join Date: Mar 2005	same here. i hate lying when i talk about girls, or when ppl ask me about them. I AM GAY!!

31st Mar 2005, 12:29 PM	#9
ahunt83 Member Regular Member Age: 28 Posts: 13 Join Date: Mar 2005	I've been feeling it all the time since i realised. It's like whenever you see a cute couple on TV or in a film and i start thinking god he looks hot and then one of my mates wil pipe up and say how hot the girl is! I just want to yell out what i'm feeling but that would definatly kill the mood. I suppose it is just the phase i'm going through where i really want to tell someone, just glad i found you lot on here.

1st Apr 2005, 09:36 PM	#11
goratrix EC Addict Full Member Age: 25 Posts: 570 Join Date: Apr 2005	Well, I actually make a point of saying YES every time the subject comes up. Although I give it a tone of irony, so it's quiet like saying no. However, I promised to myself that when somebody asked me if I was gay I would just tell the truth, I AM GAY!.

2nd Apr 2005, 04:44 AM	#12
Paul_UK Former Empty Closets Admin Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Bournemouth, UK Age: 47 Posts: 13,130 Join Date: Nov 2004	I agree that it's good to try to avoid lying about this if possible, even if it meens being vague with the truth or avoiding the issue.

2nd Apr 2005, 10:44 AM	#13
goratrix EC Addict Full Member Age: 25 Posts: 570 Join Date: Apr 2005	I have become quiet an expert on that matter over the last couple of years. The idea is to keep every conversation gender-free, which is quiet easy in spanish. I'm not so sure about english though.

2nd Apr 2005, 02:12 PM	#14
Paul_UK Former Empty Closets Admin Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Bournemouth, UK Age: 47 Posts: 13,130 Join Date: Nov 2004	It's not always that easy in English as there are a limited number of gender-neutral terms that would replace "him", "her", "he" and "she" etc without sounding unnatural. I do use the word "partner" quite a lot where other guys might say "girlfriend" or "wife" or whatever.

2nd Apr 2005, 07:51 PM	#15
goratrix EC Addict Full Member Age: 25 Posts: 570 Join Date: Apr 2005	Another thing I usually do, is speaking fairly quick, so when I MUST use a gender term I can use a male one and most of the times they miss it. The frew times someone pointed it out I joked about it.