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Sugar · 29th May 2007, 12:07 AM

I had read somewhere once that all women were bisexual?

weird eh? what do you guys think? I think it might be because there's this notion that women are very "close" to their girlfriends???

Miaplacidus · 29th May 2007, 01:07 AM

I am friends with two women. They both have expressed some sexual interest on other women, albeit very slightly, at least once.

But in general, I don't think so. I doubt that my mother is bisexual.........

**Jim1454** · 29th May 2007, 06:12 AM

LOL! Isn't that the truth! I doubt my mother is bisexual as well!

But seriously, I don't think that is the case. My wife never expressed an interest, and freaked out when I suggested a couple of years ago that I might be interested in men. If she had any bisexual tendencies, I think she would have been more understanding at the time.

Phantomblade · 29th May 2007, 09:07 AM

no there not bi sexual just very.... touch feely with each other....

joeyconnick · 29th May 2007, 11:45 AM

I think women are as "naturally" bisexual as men are... women are just not as punished as men are for expressing same-sex desire. And as Phantomblade points out, women are socialised to be very openly affectionate, quite unlike men.

I think a lot of men have feelings for both men and women--but masculinity (in this case) is a lot more hegemonic and rigid than femininity, so you get way more men who wouldn't be caught dead admitting they had a thing for another guy.

GuitarGirl1350 · 29th May 2007, 01:21 PM

Absolutely not.

hopper · 16th Sep 2010, 11:24 PM

Most girls seem to be somewhat bisexual. I know plenty of straight girls who say they'd have a lesbian relationship if the right woman came along. For them the person is more important than the gender.

Possibly Maybe · 17th Sep 2010, 02:52 AM

Generalizations are dangerous. Try to avoid them.

heatqueen · 17th Sep 2010, 03:27 AM

I wouldn't say so. I think it's more like women are more comfortable with being closer to each other than men are. If a girl was to go to the mall with her arms linked with another woman, no one would look twice. But if 2 guys went to the mall with their arms linked, they'd get laughed at. I think women are just naturally more affectionate with each other than men are.

Holmes · 17th Sep 2010, 04:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Possibly Maybe

Generalizations are dangerous. Try to avoid them.

Go with this. Girls/women are more affectionate, but sexuality is about romantic or sexual attraction, not just being very close friends. For most, however close their friendships, that's all it would be.

It is true, though, on statistics which I know roughly but can't cite, that a greater proportion of women than men can properly be defined as bisexual, but that a greater proportion of men than women can properly be defined as gay.

AlyssWonderland · 17th Sep 2010, 05:47 PM

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Originally Posted by heatqueen

I wouldn't say so. I think it's more like women are more comfortable with being closer to each other than men are. If a girl was to go to the mall with her arms linked with another woman, no one would look twice. But if 2 guys went to the mall with their arms linked, they'd get laughed at. I think women are just naturally more affectionate with each other than men are.

This. Its so stupid how this is actually true it seems...

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Originally Posted by hopper

Most girls seem to be somewhat bisexual. I know plenty of straight girls who say they'd have a lesbian relationship if the right woman came along. For them the person is more important than the gender.

So many of my 'straight' girl friends have said this. I know some guys that have said it to, but its less common with them... Overall I don't think that all women are bisexual, but I do think that alot of them could be with this point. People are so obsessed with labelling things like sexuality, when really I think anyone could fall in love with anyone and it wouldn't matter if people would stop caring.

Pseudojim · 17th Sep 2010, 08:09 PM

there might be the impression that women are more 'open' to other women, but i certainly wouldn't agree to that right off the bat.

i think it might be more likely that rather than women being more naturally bisexual, men are more naturally sensitive with regards to their ego and machismo, and liable to completely repress any non-heterosexual tendencies (and perhaps later oppress others for the same, in some people).

IsItSo · 17th Sep 2010, 09:29 PM

Alfred Kinsey concluded, after extensive studies, that the majority of humans are bisexual. I would not agree that women are more likely than men to be bisexual - I'd agree that women are just less intimidated from discussing these feelings.

xCrazyInsanity · 18th Sep 2010, 04:14 PM

not bi like that.
i think women, in general, are more affectionate towards their friends though.

x2x2x2x2y2 · 18th Sep 2010, 06:31 PM

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Originally Posted by IsItSo

Alfred Kinsey concluded, after extensive studies, that the majority of humans are bisexual. I would not agree that women are more likely than men to be bisexual - I'd agree that women are just less intimidated from discussing these feelings.

^This. Exactly this.

peaceandlies · 18th Sep 2010, 06:48 PM

i'm certainly not. 6 on the kinsey

heatqueen · 19th Sep 2010, 06:42 PM

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Originally Posted by AlyssWonderland

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Originally Posted by hopper

Most girls seem to be somewhat bisexual. I know plenty of straight girls who say they'd have a lesbian relationship if the right woman came along. For them the person is more important than the gender.

So many of my 'straight' girl friends have said this. I know some guys that have said it to, but its less common with them... Overall I don't think that all women are bisexual, but I do think that alot of them could be with this point. People are so obsessed with labelling things like sexuality, when really I think anyone could fall in love with anyone and it wouldn't matter if people would stop caring.

THIS THIS THIS!!!

I totally agree about the labelling thing, it's stupid and unnecessary. It's so much better to just follow the heart and go out with them because you genuinely love them, regardless of gender.

Z3ni · 19th Sep 2010, 06:44 PM

So are guys.. in prison lol

hopper · 20th Sep 2010, 08:47 PM

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Originally Posted by heatqueen

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Originally Posted by AlyssWonderland

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Originally Posted by hopper

Most girls seem to be somewhat bisexual. I know plenty of straight girls who say they'd have a lesbian relationship if the right woman came along. For them the person is more important than the gender.

So many of my 'straight' girl friends have said this. I know some guys that have said it to, but its less common with them... Overall I don't think that all women are bisexual, but I do think that alot of them could be with this point. People are so obsessed with labelling things like sexuality, when really I think anyone could fall in love with anyone and it wouldn't matter if people would stop caring.

THIS THIS THIS!!!

I totally agree about the labelling thing, it's stupid and unnecessary. It's so much better to just follow the heart and go out with them because you genuinely love them, regardless of gender.

I completely support your right to pursue any kind of relationship that makes you happy. If you don't want to use labels you certainly don't have to. But I would like to point out that your answer is essentially a bisexual response, in that you care more about the specific person then the actual gender. A lot of women feel that way, including several who commented on this thread.

29th May 2007, 12:07 AM	#1
Sugar EC Addict Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Open-Minded Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Montreal Age: 23 Posts: 325 Join Date: May 2007	Are women naturally bisexual? I had read somewhere once that all women were bisexual? weird eh? what do you guys think? I think it might be because there's this notion that women are very "close" to their girlfriends???

29th May 2007, 01:07 AM	#2
Miaplacidus Cheshire Cat Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gayer than not Out Status: Everyone who asks Location: Atlantida, Uruguay Age: 22 Posts: 5,080 Join Date: Feb 2007	Re: Are women naturally bisexual? I am friends with two women. They both have expressed some sexual interest on other women, albeit very slightly, at least once. But in general, I don't think so. I doubt that my mother is bisexual......... __________________ We are all mad here.

29th May 2007, 06:12 AM	#3
Jim1454 EC 'Dad' EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Toronto Age: 40 Posts: 7,078 Join Date: Mar 2007	Re: Are women naturally bisexual? LOL! Isn't that the truth! I doubt my mother is bisexual as well! But seriously, I don't think that is the case. My wife never expressed an interest, and freaked out when I suggested a couple of years ago that I might be interested in men. If she had any bisexual tendencies, I think she would have been more understanding at the time. __________________ Jim "It is never too late to be what you might have been."

29th May 2007, 09:07 AM	#4
Phantomblade Well Known Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Str8 w/ a man fetish Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Conneticut Age: 21 Posts: 169 Join Date: May 2007	Re: Are women naturally bisexual? no there not bi sexual just very.... touch feely with each other.... __________________ yea I know I cant spell Ethan

29th May 2007, 11:45 AM	#5
joeyconnick sine qua non Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Toronto, ON Posts: 3,332 Join Date: Apr 2005	Re: Are women naturally bisexual? I think women are as "naturally" bisexual as men are... women are just not as punished as men are for expressing same-sex desire. And as Phantomblade points out, women are socialised to be very openly affectionate, quite unlike men. I think a lot of men have feelings for both men and women--but masculinity (in this case) is a lot more hegemonic and rigid than femininity, so you get way more men who wouldn't be caught dead admitting they had a thing for another guy.

29th May 2007, 01:21 PM	#6
GuitarGirl1350 EC's Resident Grammar Nazi Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Boobyloverr! Out Status: I'm out like shoulder pads. Location: New Caprica Age: 20 Posts: 884 Join Date: Apr 2006	Re: Are women naturally bisexual? Absolutely not. __________________ " ...it is beautiful, it is fine, it is the noblest form of affection. There is nothing unnatural about it. ... That it should be so, the world does not understand. The world mocks at it, and sometimes puts one in the pillory for it." --Oscar Wilde, 1895.

16th Sep 2010, 11:24 PM	#7
hopper Newbie Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Straight Posts: 7 Join Date: Sep 2010	Re: Are women naturally bisexual? Most girls seem to be somewhat bisexual. I know plenty of straight girls who say they'd have a lesbian relationship if the right woman came along. For them the person is more important than the gender.

17th Sep 2010, 02:52 AM	#8
Possibly Maybe EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Location: Europe Age: 26 Posts: 1,609 Join Date: Jul 2009	Re: Are women naturally bisexual? Generalizations are dangerous. Try to avoid them.

17th Sep 2010, 03:27 AM	#9
heatqueen Official #1 fan of Celine Dion Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Uncategorized Out Status: Generally whoever asks Location: I travel a lot Age: 19 Posts: 5,391 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: Are women naturally bisexual? I wouldn't say so. I think it's more like women are more comfortable with being closer to each other than men are. If a girl was to go to the mall with her arms linked with another woman, no one would look twice. But if 2 guys went to the mall with their arms linked, they'd get laughed at. I think women are just naturally more affectionate with each other than men are. __________________ Don't drink and drive. You might hit a bump and spill your drink. Co-founder of the 'Sailor Moon Made Me Gay' club...and the lesbians.

17th Sep 2010, 08:09 PM	#12
Pseudojim Part robot Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bi - Kinsey 2ish Out Status: All but family Location: Australia Age: 26 Posts: 1,949 Join Date: Sep 2009 Tournaments Won: 29	Re: Are women naturally bisexual? there might be the impression that women are more 'open' to other women, but i certainly wouldn't agree to that right off the bat. i think it might be more likely that rather than women being more naturally bisexual, men are more naturally sensitive with regards to their ego and machismo, and liable to completely repress any non-heterosexual tendencies (and perhaps later oppress others for the same, in some people).

17th Sep 2010, 09:29 PM	#13
IsItSo EC Addict Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: 同志 Out Status: A few people Location: New York-ish Age: 17 Posts: 771 Join Date: Apr 2010	Re: Are women naturally bisexual? Alfred Kinsey concluded, after extensive studies, that the majority of humans are bisexual. I would not agree that women are more likely than men to be bisexual - I'd agree that women are just less intimidated from discussing these feelings.

18th Sep 2010, 04:14 PM	#14
xCrazyInsanity Gay, no. Fabulous, totally. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Pansexual Out Status: All BUT family Location: South-East Pennsylvania Age: 17 Posts: 750 Join Date: Dec 2009	Re: Are women naturally bisexual? not bi like that. i think women, in general, are more affectionate towards their friends though. __________________ This is love, this is not treason.

18th Sep 2010, 06:48 PM	#16
peaceandlies Survivor Full Member Gender: Genderqueer, leaning male Orientation: I like GIRLS Out Status: Out to everyone Location: In a Dream. Age: 17 Posts: 372 Join Date: Aug 2010	Re: Are women naturally bisexual? i'm certainly not. 6 on the kinsey __________________ S'not eaten for days. Who cares what they say Your love is a joke, you're a walking cliche When she starts to cry, And you don't know why It's 'cause you're a part of her little lie

19th Sep 2010, 06:44 PM	#18
Z3ni Ec's ADD Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gayish Out Status: My Twin Location: England, Manchester Posts: 2,939 Join Date: Oct 2008 Tournaments Won: 1	Re: Are women naturally bisexual? So are guys.. in prison lol __________________ If its written in the Stars Does it mean its written in your Hearts

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