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20th Jan 2005, 11:34 AM

I was online earlier today and my friend showed up on YIM. I said hello, then sent him a link to this article about a Spongebob video. I wrote, "I'm glad spongebob is pissing off all the fundies...maybe they'll get it through their thick heads eventually that there's nothing wrong with being gay."

Of course, I wasn't really talking to my friend. I was talking to his mother.

She had logged in under his screen name (he presumably left it on "automatic sign in") and she gave me no indication I wasn't talking to my friend. Now she's mad because she's one of these "fundies" who hates homosexuality. Great move on my part, eh? Yet another day in Matthewland.

Paul_UK · 20th Jan 2005, 12:03 PM

Hey, you're clear of all blame with that one. She logged in using her sons login pretending to be him. She was trying to deceive you.

Youo need to chat to your friend about saving his passwords and not logging out of sites etc though! :wink:

TriBi · 20th Jan 2005, 12:32 PM

Yeh..."oops" as you say. Hardly your fault tho'.

I have had a similar thing with friends (only, being a tad older, it was their young kids logged in) but they straightaway fessed up...wonder why she didn't? Could there have been an ulterior motive there?

Hope "fundie mom's" deception doesn't rebound on your friend - especially if he's not out - have you spoken to him since?

cowboy_wannabe · 23rd Jan 2005, 05:49 PM

that always gets me, when people log in under other people's names. talk about embarassing...

hey, as long as she doesn't try to turn the friend against you, i'd say it's best just to let the mom be. i mean, do you really care what she has to say anyway?

27th Jan 2005, 03:48 PM

She knows I'm gay, but she doesn't want her son to be "influenced" by me. She also told him that he can't have anymore gay friends. period.

This guy is 21 years old. Pssht! I'd be damned if I let my mom pick my friends at that—or any other—age.

cowboy_wannabe · 28th Jan 2005, 08:27 PM

amen to that!

Soilwork · 26th Mar 2005, 10:35 AM

Ok.. 21 years old, still lives with Mom, has no lock on his door and allows her to give him orders about who he can and can't have as friends?

I think he needs a good swift kick.

But after that, she needs a baptism in reality... pretending to be her son in order to get info out of you is... well.. the kind of smarmy thing I'd expect from a Christian, so I guess I can't even feign surprise.

I'm assuming your friend gave her shit for doing that?

29th Mar 2005, 02:02 PM

Give her shit? Nah... I just dropped it. There was no reason to further subject myself to her bologna.

goratrix · 1st Apr 2005, 08:57 PM

weird situation. as I said when I introduced myslef... I'm a big freaking nerd, and so are most of my friends... all of the ones I chat with are anyway. So I can't even begin to think anyone loggin into my account withot my approval.

I have all configured to automatically sign in, except for my user account, and that has a twenty digit password, which is virtually unbreakable, since it's encoded with the SHADOW suite and I change it every three months, so even if they somehow got the shadow file, and decrypted it with a brute force cracker, the password would be useless. (please, by all means ignore this last paragraph if you don't consider yourself a nerd)

**Corny** · 4th Apr 2005, 03:37 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by goratrix

I have all configured to automatically sign in, except for my user account, and that has a twenty digit password, which is virtually unbreakable,

[nerd-mode]
i hope you mean twenty characters not twenty digits
[/nerd-mode]

Micah · 4th Apr 2005, 06:33 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by goratrix

I have all configured to automatically sign in, except for my user account, and that has a twenty digit password, which is virtually unbreakable, since it's encoded with the SHADOW suite and I change it every three months, so even if they somehow got the shadow file, and decrypted it with a brute force cracker, the password would be useless.

*Stares blankly at the screen* (the warning came a little late)

goratrix · 4th Apr 2005, 08:57 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Corny

[nerd-mode]
i hope you mean twenty characters not twenty digits
[/nerd-mode]

Touché... of course I mean characters. twnty digits would take about seven hours on a PIV@2GHz. to brute force. My pass would take over 76 hours. and after that I decided I would use my CPU for something a little bit more useful... so i don't actually know how lond it would take to break it.

20th Jan 2005, 11:34 AM	#1
Matt Guest Posts: n/a	Haha....oops. I was online earlier today and my friend showed up on YIM. I said hello, then sent him a link to this article about a Spongebob video. I wrote, "I'm glad spongebob is pissing off all the fundies...maybe they'll get it through their thick heads eventually that there's nothing wrong with being gay." Of course, I wasn't really talking to my friend. I was talking to his mother. She had logged in under his screen name (he presumably left it on "automatic sign in") and she gave me no indication I wasn't talking to my friend. Now she's mad because she's one of these "fundies" who hates homosexuality. Great move on my part, eh? Yet another day in Matthewland.

23rd Jan 2005, 05:49 PM	#4
cowboy_wannabe Member Regular Member Location: Chester, Illinois Age: 23 Posts: 36 Join Date: Jan 2005	that always gets me, when people log in under other people's names. talk about embarassing... hey, as long as she doesn't try to turn the friend against you, i'd say it's best just to let the mom be. i mean, do you really care what she has to say anyway? __________________ cowboy_wannabe 16//gay//proud

28th Jan 2005, 08:27 PM	#6
cowboy_wannabe Member Regular Member Location: Chester, Illinois Age: 23 Posts: 36 Join Date: Jan 2005	amen to that! __________________ cowboy_wannabe 16//gay//proud

20th Jan 2005, 12:03 PM	#2
Paul_UK Former Empty Closets Admin Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Bournemouth, UK Age: 47 Posts: 13,155 Join Date: Nov 2004	Hey, you're clear of all blame with that one. She logged in using her sons login pretending to be him. She was trying to deceive you. Youo need to chat to your friend about saving his passwords and not logging out of sites etc though! :wink:

20th Jan 2005, 12:32 PM	#3
TriBi Cheers! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bisexual Location: DownUnder Posts: 3,899 Join Date: Dec 2004	Yeh..."oops" as you say. Hardly your fault tho'. I have had a similar thing with friends (only, being a tad older, it was their young kids logged in) but they straightaway fessed up...wonder why she didn't? Could there have been an ulterior motive there? Hope "fundie mom's" deception doesn't rebound on your friend - especially if he's not out - have you spoken to him since?

27th Jan 2005, 03:48 PM	#5
Matt Guest Posts: n/a	She knows I'm gay, but she doesn't want her son to be "influenced" by me. She also told him that he can't have anymore gay friends. period. This guy is 21 years old. Pssht! I'd be damned if I let my mom pick my friends at that—or any other—age.

26th Mar 2005, 10:35 AM	#7
Soilwork Newbie Regular Member Age: 43 Posts: 3 Join Date: Mar 2005	Ok.. 21 years old, still lives with Mom, has no lock on his door and allows her to give him orders about who he can and can't have as friends? I think he needs a good swift kick. But after that, she needs a baptism in reality... pretending to be her son in order to get info out of you is... well.. the kind of smarmy thing I'd expect from a Christian, so I guess I can't even feign surprise. I'm assuming your friend gave her shit for doing that?

29th Mar 2005, 02:02 PM	#8
Matt Guest Posts: n/a	Give her shit? Nah... I just dropped it. There was no reason to further subject myself to her bologna.

1st Apr 2005, 08:57 PM	#9
goratrix EC Addict Full Member Age: 25 Posts: 570 Join Date: Apr 2005	weird situation. as I said when I introduced myslef... I'm a big freaking nerd, and so are most of my friends... all of the ones I chat with are anyway. So I can't even begin to think anyone loggin into my account withot my approval. I have all configured to automatically sign in, except for my user account, and that has a twenty digit password, which is virtually unbreakable, since it's encoded with the SHADOW suite and I change it every three months, so even if they somehow got the shadow file, and decrypted it with a brute force cracker, the password would be useless. (please, by all means ignore this last paragraph if you don't consider yourself a nerd)