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Old 13th Aug 2008, 07:38 PM   #1
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Default Why do straight guys like slapping my butt and stuff

I'm a bi guy but not out yet and I will admit that I act kind of girly to the point where people who first meet me think I'm gay. Lol.

But some straight guys especially in band smack my butt HARD all the time and it hurts usually. And I fell asleep on the floor and when some guys that I know started like air humping the area around my body. (weird?) one was above my butt the other above my head.

I don't feel violated or anything its all in good fun but I just think its weird.

And they'll like touch my arm gently and stuff or pull me really close and like bear hug me. Lol.

Straight guys are weird.
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Old 13th Aug 2008, 07:43 PM   #2
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lol you say that and its true. Straight people are kind of weird in general. Girls tend to do that to. It kinda is right up there with y do guys liek to parade around showing themselves off or why do straight girls kiss each other. I swear straight people just want the attention but i dont really know for sure. It seems liek since we are gay that we shy away from that stuff so we don't look gay but straight people do it to show off and idk 'prove' they r straight o.0...idk i'm deff thinking straight ppl are weird XD
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Old 13th Aug 2008, 07:54 PM   #3
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Us straight guys are pretty gay. LOL. Seriously. You mostly see this in real strong friendships. I grab my best friends butt all the time but he knows I'm just kidding. Sometimes I'll randomly throw in a I love you when we're talking on the phone just to see if he says it back or to make him feel awkward. One of my gay frined was a real horn dog, always checking out guys and saying things like " I would (Blank) him" to which I would respond "hell yeah, me too"
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Old 13th Aug 2008, 07:54 PM   #4
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Some straight guys are very confident in their sexuality. Some believe that doing stuff like that would somehow increase their masculinity, although I really don't see how. Many people in general just like attention. In the end, all sorts of people do stuff all the time that is just weird to others. Don't let it bother you. If it does, then just say something.
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Old 13th Aug 2008, 08:08 PM   #5
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I don't know why straight guys do it, but it's fun

go with the flow.

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Old 13th Aug 2008, 08:53 PM   #6
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Yeah, guys just do that. XD
Girls do it too, me and my friends are always pretending to flirt.
ALWAYS. XD
It's just a friends thing i guess.
You can usually tell when someone is REALLY flirting with you...

Straight people are usually just so comfortable with their sexuality that they feel fine flirting with people.
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Old 13th Aug 2008, 09:49 PM   #7
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How Does this make you feel when they do this?Does this upset you,anger you ect ect???
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Old 13th Aug 2008, 10:18 PM   #8
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One of my straight friends who doesn't know or suspect that I am gay will often say to me, "Love you, Michael." To which I reply, "I love you too, Kyle."

He is not serious (and neither am I); he is only trying to be funny. And it's a nice way to say that you value your friendship.
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Old 13th Aug 2008, 10:33 PM   #9
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It doesn't upset me or anything.
I got a little paranoid now because they do it so often so when they come up behind me I'm like "GUARD THE CHEEKS!" lmao.

I'm just curious to why they would get such a kick out of it.

One guy cracked me up.
I was bent over and he smacked the crap out of my hind quarters and i'm skinny so my butt is boney when i'm bent over and he goes "OUCH! It feels like I got splinters in my hand, messin around with your narrow behind"

Lol.
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Straight guys are weird.
to quote ellen, "you heterosexuals are wierd."

with which i whole-heartedly agree.


straight guys tend to do that alot. like i said, theyre just wierd.

what i think? its just because alot of people will just asume that youre straight, so they feel like they dont have to prove anything.
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Old 13th Aug 2008, 11:23 PM   #11
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Yeh a few of my friends do the same thing. One in particular finds it hilarious to play gay chicken with me, in which i always loose cos i'd to 'bleepin' insecure.
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It's all in good fun, usually, I guess.

I've seen girls smack each other in the butt in the middle of class. Seriously, we were doing an experiment in science, the one girl bends over to grab something the other one comes up behind her and smacks her across her butt.

Although, the guys in my school are completely afraid that any sign of affection or caring towards other guys will make them seem gay. It's pathetic.

I smacked my (straight, female) friend's butt one time before quiz bowl. I said it was for good luck. We won 2nd place in the tournament, lol. I even asked her if I could do it, and she said 'yeah, go ahead'. So I did it.
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Old 14th Aug 2008, 02:09 PM   #13
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Yea... My friends usually get drunk and start to whip out there junk and 'compare'. Or just try to rub it on each other... and they are straight. Slaps on the ass, tackling and trying to pull down pants are totally a common thing. All fun and games though.
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Old 14th Aug 2008, 04:40 PM   #14
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I'm sensing a bit of heterophobia
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Old 14th Aug 2008, 10:38 PM   #15
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^ fasho ^


thats really all i have to say. kthnxby.
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Old 14th Aug 2008, 10:50 PM   #16
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Us straight guys are pretty gay. LOL. Seriously. You mostly see this in real strong friendships. I grab my best friends butt all the time but he knows I'm just kidding. Sometimes I'll randomly throw in a I love you when we're talking on the phone just to see if he says it back or to make him feel awkward. One of my gay frined was a real horn dog, always checking out guys and saying things like " I would (Blank) him" to which I would respond "hell yeah, me too"
Gee, why do you guys have to make everything so much more confusing.
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Old 15th Aug 2008, 07:58 PM   #17
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Cuz it feels good
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Old 15th Aug 2008, 11:11 PM   #18
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to quote ellen, "you heterosexuals are wierd."
No one can say it quite like Ellen.

Men in general like to presume dominance. Back in B.C.E. rape among men was common, especially when one army defeated another. They would take prisoners back to camp to have their way then kill them.
Such social practices can be seen today.

It has nothing really to do with sexual attraction, just a bunch of men thrashing about senselessly as men do. Trying to prove something, not quite sure what.
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Although, the guys in my school are completely afraid that any sign of affection or caring towards other guys will make them seem gay. It's pathetic.
This has made me miserable more than once... It's like most of my guy friends equivocate a hug with sex or something. I'm a very "hands-on" person in general, that's how I communicate, (wasn't there a study saying that men are on average like 40% more physical versus vocal?) so when guys (mostly) get all awkward when I try to hug them it's not only really STUPID and annoying, but it really hurts too.

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Old 16th Aug 2008, 04:58 AM   #20
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Bec straight guys are weird

Just as we are... everyone is weird

I mean my friends humps me but it's all in good fun=P

So yeh, you'll just have to learn to live with it=)
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